There are two major sections to PURPOSE. The first helps us make better everyday decisions by making them ‘with and on purpose’. This we call living a ‘Purpose-Decisive’ Life. ‘With’ purpose means to have a specific reason for doing something, and ‘on’ purpose means to make that decision deliberately without hesitation or delay once you know what you want to do and why you want to do it. If you are not making purposeful decisions, then you must be making most of them either by default or reaction. There are many internal and external factors which influence our decision-making. Some internal ones could be stress, fear, perceived time-constraints, lack of preparation, perception of risks, confidence, and many more. Some external ones could be perceived lack of control, or support, relationships, environment, personality conflicts, and many more. Your job is to honestly look at these factors and decide which ones are influencing you to either make that purposeful decision or the reaction-based one. Once you know, you get to intentionally choose how you will deal with these factors to change their influence over your decision-making.
Within each section, and with each principle or process, we give you a tool to use. You are never left to your own devices trying to figure out how to put these new ideas into practice to address real issues you may be facing. Each tool gives you a process to follow that will guide you in developing a new skill to have in your toolbox of life-skills. Any mechanic knows s/he must have the right tool for the right job in order to do it right the first time, thus saving valuable time, effort, and potential waste. And so it is with the Intentional Tools(™) we will give you. However, those same mechanics will also tell you it is better not to have them unless they are properly trained on how to use those tools. If you get to the place where you need help applying some of our tools you can always request a training or coaching session so we can properly equip you.
The tool here is one of our most popular and the most used according to our graduates–The Double-Triangle. It is simple, but sometimes not as easy as it may appear. This tool is mostly used in helping make decisions of how to solve problems in relationships. First you choose an outcome you want by the time the conversation is over. Then you start with the inner triangle and ask, ‘What is the first thing I want to do or say’? ‘Why would I want to say or do that first’? ‘How will I specifically say or do that’? Then on to the outer triangle. ‘What do I think their reactions are going to be to what I said or did’? ‘Why do I think they would react that way’? “How will I deal with them if they react that way’? Your job is to anticipate what their reactions could be and be intentionally prepared to handle them whenever they do occur. That way, no matter what happens you will be ready and not react yourself. This one tool has literally changed the lives of countless people who have taken one of our classes or coaching sessions. It could do the same for you.
